Patrick "Pat" Weaver

Patrick Venson Weaver, age 56, passed away in his sleep Saturday morning, February 7, 2026, in the comfort and warmth of his home in Pelham, North Carolina. He was born in Durham, North Carolina, the firstborn son of Rachel Ellis and the late Robert Newton Weaver. Mr. Weaver is survived by his mother, Rachel, and her husband Brent Ellis, his paternal grandmother, Billie Jean Fairman, his devoted partner Renee Munson, brother Kevin and wife Tray Weaver, sister Mellisa Weaver and Brandi Ellis, and their children Hunter Weaver, Nick Weaver, Brook Weaver, Bucky Manus, and Jerrid Ellis, as well as their spouses, children, and so many other nieces and nephews that have and forever will call him “Uncle Pat.” He is also survived by his uncle Lester and wife Linda Hockaday and their two sons Jamie and Scotty Hockaday. He is also survived by two sons: the eldest, Robert Franklin Weaver, and the younger, Thomas Lee Weaver, as well as their mother, Angela.

Patrick followed in the footsteps of his father and rose from a laborer all the way to Superintendent in the field of commercial heating and air conditioning. Much like his father, he was gifted with tremendous ability with this work and his hands worked on many of the landmark buildings of this state. Places like the Underwriter Laboratory Building of Durham, Duke University Hospital, the Blockade Runner of Wrightsville Beach, as well as M.C.A.S. New River, in which he took particular pride, as it was the largest Marine structure and freestanding hangar in the entirety of the Marine Corps. He worked with the intensity of ten men even well into his fifties and out-worked men many years his junior. He cared for the men he worked with and would never ask a man to do something that he could not do or would not do himself.

Mr. Weaver had a wide variety of interests and hobbies. Early in his life a Honda Rebel and a Hot Rodding Uncle gave birth to a lifelong joy of driving fast on and off the road that he passed down to both his boys. (But particularly Robert, who Patrick insisted get a Mustang for his first car that for a little while became the family car, much to Patrick’s enjoyment and his son’s chagrin). Patrick was also an excellent pool player. He joined the APA and was a member of several teams over the years, sometimes with his cousin Scottie. The argument of who had the best game was never settled unless you asked Scottie. Patrick was also a skilled recreational poker player and during his time in Oregon, among other places, he reached many final tables and won his fair share of tournaments. This too he passed down to a son: Tommy. Tommy saw his father win against all odds and sometimes lose against all odds. Such was the nature of his luck: exceptionally good and exceptionally bad at other times, evening out in the end. Patrick also had interests in gardening, kayaking, and long drives in nice cars with good music.

Patrick, though not formally educated, was driven by a deep curiosity for the world and the people in it. He read widely and consumed the knowledge and experience of life with a thirst that was hard to satisfy. Given this drive and an active, sharp mind, he always looked for the adventure in life. More than that, he wanted to share the adventure. He had the heart of a poet and at every opportunity he would try to find the beauty and the joy in all things. Even in the pain that curiosity sometimes brought, he was a man of passion.

This wondering and curious spirit led him to so many places and to meet people of all varieties, from the Outer Banks of Carolina to the Redwoods of Oregon and California, he roamed until he settled on the banks of the Rouge River Valley of South Oregon, where his restless spirit found a solace and a peace that washed over him. That peace brought him home to North Carolina and to his family that he has shown so much of the West to. He settled down in Pelham, and with his own two hands and the help of so many of his friends and family, he built a home down the road from his mother so that they could keep an eye on one another as the years passed. He will be remembered for his tremendous love and how freely he gave all of himself, for his humor, for his laugh, and his openness to those that leaned on him for support and advice, and the blue in his eyes that pierced the soul with an honesty that will exist in our minds always.

The family will receive friends from 5:00 to 7:00 PM on Thursday, February 12, at Hudson Funeral Home, 211 S. Miami Blvd., Durham, NC 27703.

A funeral service will be held Friday, February 13, 2026 at 3:00 PM at Hudson Funeral Home, 211 S. Miami Blvd., Durham, NC 27703. Interment will follow at Glenn Family Cemetery. Rev. Hugh O’Shields will officiate. Pallbearers will be Robert Weaver, Thomas Weaver, Kevin Weaver, Hunter Weaver, Nick Weaver, Grant Parker, Bucky Manus, and Dante Webster.